In Christian society, ‘becoming more like Christ’ takes center stage. For young women, this means a life of preparation for marriage. Home-making, infant care, dressing modestly, and cultivating a ‘meek and quiet spirit’ should be top priority from girlhood to motherhood. Sensa Nostra talks to a newlywed who has spent her entire life ‘seeking after God’, with a passionate dedication to keeping herself pure for her groom and developing her walk with God.
I was always excited to find someone. Someone to have as an adventure partner and a friend. Because, you know, I don’t make friends very easily. For a long time I wanted to be a housewife. I see the role of supporting my husband as an important one. I waited for sex—I think purity before marriage is so important. I am so glad my husband and I were virgins on our wedding night. I mean, you hear a lot of things, from a psychological standpoint, about sex before marriage. I think it’s bad to have one-night stands.
Five years ago I was less confident, very much less confident. I’ve grown a lot. I’ve gotten to know myself a lot better. I think one of the things I’ve learned about me is that I am just simple. I enjoy comedies, I don’t have deep conversations, and I like chocolate. I think people notice that about me: I am simple. My husband really showed me who I am. He forced me really to tell him about myself. If I hadn’t met him, I would be years behind in my development. I really think that.
I went to public school and the culture there was very secular. But it helped me make the decision to act like a Christian at all times. I am glad I went there. It helped me appreciate my faith and not take it for granted. I graduated high school and I didn’t know what to do with my life. I wasn’t great at school. I stayed at home and I took this class called ‘Career Planning’. When I was little, I wanted to be a zoologist or work with animals at Seaworld. But then I realized that wasn’t practical.
It was my decision to attend a Christian college. I saw it as an investment in my faith. I ended up choosing the most expensive Christian college out there, but I wanted to be in that environment. I studied music, because the career planning tests indicated I should study something creative. My teachers are very godly, and they were such an inspiration to me. If only we all could be like them. So far I haven’t made any money from my degree. I’d really love to make a career out of music, but right now I just need to earn money. I would love to direct a choir or even be in a choir. I was in a choir when I met my husband. He still sings, but now that we are married, I just work and stay at home. My highest aspiration would be to sing in Celtic Woman. I just love them. But I’ve had to let that go.
I don’t have a favorite book. I don’t really read books. But I have read a book recently. It’s called Mr. G, and it portrays God. It was a really abstract and cool view of things like God’s creation of the world and Noah’s Flood and the Trinity. I really appreciated it. It gave me perspective. I believe the Bible is the Word of God. I guess I should say that it is the most important book in my life, then. That is the correct answer, right?
The biggest and most important event in my life has definitely been my marriage, hands down. Christ is the center of our marriage. As we grow closer to Him we grow closer to each other. I would like it to be that way. I guess it is a little more complicated seeing how that practically works in a relationship. I have heard that many pagan American marriages involve porn. I think that is absolutely on par with cheating. I don’t even know why someone would watch that. I couldn’t imagine my husband doing that—I would be devastated. It is so harmful.
A marriage is a metaphor for how God works. The husband woos his bride like Christ has wooed the Church, to come unto Him and be sheltered. A wife is a picture of the Church while her groom represents Christ Himself. I was taught that a woman must submit to her husband, who is the patriarch of his family. He will lead and support and look after his family’s physical and spiritual well-being. A husband is the head of the household. I think that’s marriage according to the Bible, and it’s only between a man and a woman. But according to the law? I don’t know, and I don’t really care about that. I just know the Bible calls homosexuals an abomination. They come from bad homes. That is why they turn out that way. I am thankful I can be a wife and serve my husband according to the Scripture. I am just so lucky he found me.