The sex industry has many fervent opponents who blame men or the devil for its existence. Sacred and glamorous courtesans, pitiful teenage girls at the mercy of the patriarchy or scabby junkie whores on the side-walk; a spectrum of colourful characters spring to mind as we imagine sex workers and it doesn’t always look good. Lucy, also known as Mistress Amanda, works for the sex industry as both an escort and a dominatrix. She has a cheerful demeanor as she explains that selling your body does not necessarily mean you are selling your soul or cheapening yourself but is just another path to happiness.
I do both domination and escorting. Before I started working there were a number of things from my early childhood up to my late teens, involving family and partners, which were making me unhappy. I started along this path as soon as I was legally old enough and it has been my full-time occupation since I was 19. I have been fascinated by sex from a young age and when I first learned of escorting, I became deeply intrigued. When I was fifteen, I watched an episode of Crime Scene Investigation where the scene of the crime was a dungeon in a mansion and the Mistress was being investigated. Since seeing that, I fell in love with the idea of being a Mistress, having sex slaves and dressing up in leather and PVC.
Domination involves meeting the client and having a short chat if it’s their first time. During this chat, we discuss rules and boundaries set by me or the client. I’m completely in control once the session begins. Domination sessions don’t involve sex or me performing oral, they are sometimes allowed to perform oral on me, but they have to earn the privilege first. When I started out, I was amused that people got off on being controlled and wanted to serve and worship a mistress or a master. Now after doing the job I’m not sure if I’d want a client sex slave that came to my home and attended to my everyday needs. Maybe in my private life, I’d like a sex slave with whom I have already built trust and friendship with. When I am escorting, sometimes chatting is involved beforehand but sometimes we start kissing or having sex straight away. There have been occasions where I’ve been booked for five hours and no actual sex has taken place or it’s a case of the first hour being a drink and chatting and then the 2nd hour going upstairs for sex.
I’m not entirely sure what I’d class as a strange request these days. I’d say the strangest is when clients request “hard sports”; this is when I empty my contents either in front of them, on them or in their mouths. This is also known as part of toilet training. Toilet training not only involves this but also “water sports” which is me urinating either on, front of, on them or in their mouth. However I consider water sports alone not to be strange as I enjoy it being done on me in my private life but I could never get off from hard sports. Hard Sports is a fairly common request, one day I had three clients for that service in a day. I eat a healthy vegetarian diet of lots of fruit, vegetables, beans and pulses and usually need a few hours in advance so I can go to the toilet. I am interested as to why clients get off on this and usually the answer is, “It’s just something I’ve never tried,” or for the clients who come a lot they seem to like being under control and enjoy the thought of being used as a human toilet. Once, a client asked me to go for a meal with him, go to the toilet with a glass of wine and empty or drink the wine and replace it with my urine. When I returned to the table he wanted me to force him to drink it and spit on his food whilst he ate it.
In my private sex life I am mainly submissive but I do switch and sometimes go vanilla. I like to be submissive with people who I trust, and who know what they are doing and really want to be in charge. What gets me off about being submissive is that they are in control but at the same time I can trust that they are going to look after me whilst they dominate me. There are some things I would never do at work, such as have sex without a condom or offer services as a submissive as I did at the beginning of my escorting career because it is too risky. The danger is that the people who approach you tend to be more likely to want their own way and if they can’t have it, they have less respect in general. Someone I know let a man tie her up, he kicked her multiple times in the ribs and then ejaculated on her and took the money and left her in pain for hours before a maid came and found her. The only reason I will reject clients would be if I feel that either mine or their health and safety is at risk. One man asked me to put a stiletto heel down his urethra with chili powder and stick needles in his penis. I also refused a couple who wanted me, whilst I dominated them, to allow their dog to mount the wife. I always think that as long as you leave children and animals out of it, everyone has consented and no skin is broken then it is fine no matter how obscure.
Several of my clients have wives but I think that if it wasn’t me they would be seeing someone else. I am a professional and I’m there to do a job and I can’t control men’s desires. My work doesn’t affect my personal relationships as I would class myself as Polyamorous. I have only ever been in one totally monogamous relationship out of the four long term relationships I’ve been in. In my last relationship, escorting was okay but after a certain point there were problems so I just stuck to the domination side of my job without offering sex. Although I stopped my escorting during that relationship we still continued having group sex with our friends and other people. I don’t keep my work a secret from anyone. If people ask, I tell them. It didn’t shock my friends as I’ve always been the naughtiest of the group. They all approve of what I do because they know I love it and it suits my personality.
I don’t need to act so much because my skills developed naturally but I’ve always looked at it as a profession which I find interesting. I enjoy helping people explore their fetishes and increasing their confidence about it because some clients are initially very embarrassed about their fetishes. Good personal qualities to have or develop for this work include being able to communicate, self-confidence, being able take control, good organisation, being empathetic, being patient and understanding and having a good telephone manner. I think it’s pretty easy if you like it. For my domination work, organisation is particularly important because I manage everything myself. I am a strict mistress who offers no sex which is why I like to keep the escorting separate. I joined an escorting agency run by a female and I feel more comfortable working for an agency for work of that nature for the extra security. I don’t worry when people try to break rules or fuck me about because I accept that it comes as part of the job but no one has broken any serious rules. The worst part of my job is actually time wasters. For instance when I get called out somewhere and have had to spend money on a driver and the client has switched their phone off or given me the wrong address. If people call and tell me the wrong address or purposely stand me up, I refuse to see them again.
I’m involved the oldest trade and I feel that my job helps people explore their fetishes thus exploring their minds and stimulating their imagination or I simply provide company or can be a ‘pay as you go girlfriend/fuck buddy’. For the clients I guess it is therapeutic; sometimes they do just want someone to talk to. Some of my clients have broken down or had panic attacks and I’ve stayed and talked to them even after the session is up. I love my job and I love working and it has helped me in some ways such as it has increased my confidence and made me more considerate and empathetic towards people. It has also helped me be more in control of my life because when I go in to that role, it is a bit of an act which I learn things from and adapt to my personality. I’ve changed a lot since I started; I’m way more mature and much more positive. I’m generally pretty happy these days and I was mostly unhappy before I started doing this work. The best thing about my job is being able to work when I want, where I want and mostly being able to wear what I want. I also love sex, talking to people, role-play and dressing up and my job entails all of these. If people ever do judge me negatively it doesn’t faze or upset me. I don’t expect everyone to like or approve of my job/lifestyle and I understand not everyone has the same ideas but I hope that they can appreciate my point of view and respect that we are all different.
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